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If I Could Turn Back Time: Semester Recap of Kickin It With Kenna
Hey Everyone,
So I know its finals week and everyone is stressing and getting super pumped to go home. But if you have some downtime I wanted to just give a quick recap of the topics we’ve covered this semester. Also this post will give those of you who haven’t been tuning in a cheat sheet.
First off we all learned how we live in a rape culture. As a refresher a rape culture is
“a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent. In a rape culture, women perceive a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself. A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm.”
So if we want to lower the occurrence of sexual assault, we must first target our thinking surrounding sex and dating and respect.
Next, we learned about relationship abuse and how it is prevalent on campuses because of the secrecy that surrounds it and its taboo nature. If you are in an abusive relationship, emotional or physically abusive, remember that you are not alone and there are people here to help you. Also remember the golden rules of healthy relationships. As your relationship is one which CATERS to both you and your partner.
COMMUNICATION, AUTONOMY, TRUST AND HONESTY, EQUALITY AND FAIRNESS, RESPECT, SUPPORT
Then we covered the importance of consent when performing intimate acts with individuals. So a reminder for you all:
Consent is a mutual agreement, based on a shared desire for specific sexual activities; An ongoing verbal interaction, taken one step at a time, to an expressed and honest yes; Mutual awareness of possible consequences of activities; Each partner remains open to and respects the other partner’s expression of agreement or disagreement to engage in the activity.
And there are sexy ways to ask for consent so try your hand at dirty talk and the like, find what works for you and voices your idea so that it can be safely and consensually returned
Next, we discussed being aware of our surroundings especially the environment of college parties and how this is something to be aware of. We should all be looking at the people we surround ourselves with and realizing that sometimes we aren’t as safe as we assume.
We then discussed the importance of self care, which I hope you have been practicing this week with finals. If you don’t know, then I suggest at some point today you take 15 minutes and do something you really like doing, whether its sleep, read, go get coffee or go outside for a walk. It can be anything you desire as long as it’s healthy for you.
The next topic we discussed went along similarly with self care when we discussed self worth. The most important lesion to learn being that before you enter into a relationship you both should love yourselves just as much. Not meaning you both have to be conceited but that you cannot invest in another until you know your own worth.
After these sections about self awareness we then discussed safety planning for those who are in a dangerous relationship. It is better to be prepared than to hope for your situation to not grow. So, if you are in an abusive relationship take some time and make an emergency safety plan so that if you ever needed it you would have an idea of what you were doing. And remember the guidelines to ask yourself when planning.
Safety Planning Guidelines:
• If I feel unsafe I can…
• If I need a safe place I can go I can…
• Once my abuser has left I can do the following to help keep myself safe…
• If I am injured as a result of my abuser I can…
• For more long term help I can…
We then covered the issue of stalking on college campuses which is growing to be more of an issue. So for those of you who don’t know Stalking is described as
• Threatening safety. Following, approaching, or confronting the targeted person.
• Appearing with no legitimate purpose at or around a place where a person can be found, including a residence, workplace, or school.
• Causing damage to property
• Placing an object on the person’s property, either directly or through a third person
• Causing an injury to a family pet
• Acts of communication that are harassing to the individual e.g. letters, packages, electronic transmissions, etc. Engaging in acts which would constitute stalking after having been advised by a law enforcement officer that the person’s acts were in violation of the stalking statute.
So if someone is doing any of the following to you please contact the police or a crisis organization.
The last topic was in addressing stress and finals which I urge you all to read how I personal stay unstressed, procrastinate some yet still complete my assignments.
So there it all is, a full semester of discussions with me. I hope you all have enjoyed tuning in to hear my opinion on these issues that are important us all, not just as college students, but as people who are involved in this rape culture every day. For those of you who are just reading this blog for the first time if you scroll down you will see all of the posts explained in depth. It has been so great to write these blog posts for you all. I hope you not only spread the word about this blog, but about SHARPP as well, the more resources we provide the safer individuals will feel.
So Happy Holidays toyou all and Good Luck with your finals!!
Tune in next time on Kickin It With Kenna!
Rock The Vote!
Hey Everyone,
So as we all know tomorrow is NATIONAL ELECTION DAY! Now most people I hear from have mixed emotions on the day ranging from “OMG I can’t wait!” to “I can’t wait till it’s finally over”
What I’m going to write about today isn’t going to tell you who to vote for because that is not going to help anyone. Every person has their opinion to who they think should be in charge of our country and I’m not going to dispute that. However, I am going to tell you to vote regardless because IT IS IMPORTANT!!
Yesterday I walked down the Hoco stairs and heard a girl say,
“Well it’s not like my vote matters so whatever!”
Whatever?!? Doesn’t Matter?!?
If everyone in our generation thought this and didn’t vote then Yes she’d right, it wouldn’t matter because we’d never be heard. This election is one that is going to heavily impact our generation: our job opportunities, our rights, our future!
This election has caused a lot of controversy over what issues people deem important social or economic. My personal opinion is that while our economy is important and the recession we experienced is very real, social issues are what will drive us either forward or backward. And yes, this is a personal opinion because I know for my current job and for my career future social issues are going to be a deal breaker. Others are free to think otherwise. However, today I’m writing this post so we all can think about our futures because the next president is one that will impact them greatly.
I’m not suggesting for us all to forget the deficit and ignore the hardships others have endured because of the economy. I only suggest that when you vote you consider other opinions as well.
What you want to do when you are out of college?
How you want the country, the world to look?
Look to the future not the numbers being thrown at you from all sides because both sides are reciting them with inaccuracies. Think about personal freedoms that you believe in. Take the time to research which candidate embodies your beliefs of how you feel women, men, the poor, the rich, LBGTQ+ should be treated. These are the people who are in our country, these are the people who will be voting alongside you to try and create a better country.
This election shouldn’t be about the numbers you heard on the radio because as I said previously both sides are reporting ones that are not exactly true. It takes a lot of research to truly figure out where each candidate is coming from in terms of their spending. I know some of you won’t agree on this but I place the value of human life over any dollar amount. I realize that is because of my studies and my background. For others who better understand the economy and business issues I can understand the drive to focus on these amounts and don’t chastise them for doing so. I just want us all to remember that beneath the numbers are people. People who struggle, who thrive, who suffer and who excel. When you go to vote tomorrow remember that as well, we are a country that was founded on the idea of independence and the institution of personal freedoms, don’t forget that those are just as important as money.
So please go out and vote, not because of the commercials, debates, signs and chalkings. Go out and vote because you need to have your voice be heard. Don’t sit around and think that this doesn’t matter because the next president will be the one who is deciding not just your future but the country’s.
GO VOTE!
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